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I have. Practiced somehow I'm such questions. As. To
risk leaving
a test run to. The top today was.
Called Learning to stay connected. But when we. Had this discussion about the
talk you forgot for a moment that this is
a season of ours and I do the same doctor who Season one liners. And I call it.
Worry to create
a nonviolent on. Trying to talk I just changed the title to fit you
to me on the season of nonviolence just.
Twelve three sixty five instead of not a program so sometimes I forget for
a moment the women in the season because rowers are. And that's I think that story
one of Australia. And talking about where I am today.
I love geography ever since school. I went to University of Oregon I was rationed
man on the coast so this is easy to identify with there's not that different in
fact my ideal world when I went to college I studied geography I decided anywhere
between San Francisco and Seattle was perfect. And then I spent
a lot of time growing up and going around the world and my perfect world trouble it
became anywhere between Santa Rosa and Salem. So here I am today standing right in
the middle of my partner. So thank you for having.
I'm going to take
a moment just to think about some of the things that you already know and remind
them remind us of them because sometimes we forget for a moment and that is
a. Goddess all arrears. And Goddess of Love. If we
really totally knew that an integrated back into the core of our being we could go
home that be the end of the matter but we don't always recognize that every moment
of our life so wanting to stay connected is to be able to. Stand in that feeling
most of the time and when we start feeling to be able to quickly get right back
into it so that's what the talk is about today. We've never really been taught OK I
don't feel. God how do I step back and that's sometimes what we have problems with
that we somehow think about not being connected to what is being real for
a moment we know better but we don't always remember that for
a moment so that's really what we want to talk about. Today how can. I ask your
question. How many of you consider yourselves controllers. You like to control your
environment control our life insurance if you're going to fly with that. How many
of you do not like to be controlled. Will. You see the distance with the.
Real problem here really dysfunctional belief system if we want to stay connected
to God those two beliefs together the world so that's kind of what we're talking
about is why. We're there and how we get.
We always get angry for the one reason. You know what the reason that we get any
reporters it never varies it's never good for anybody the reason we're angry is
always because I think I should get angry when we have
a bleeding inside of us of saying OK this is Jewish and I get angry and we're going
to we've learned that from childhood when this happens we go to that place and we
say OK I'm
a Brit now because I'm supposed to be. One of my guns. Just disconnected from God.
That's why we come here on Sunday to say oh there's
a time I need to connect but once we learn this lesson we can come here news on
Sunday to socialize with friends instead of just to reconnect.
I think you can understand and that's why this is important because that's what we
want to know we want to be connected to God Our nature is low we step out
a lot. We disconnect from our shores our way of being.
There's
a lot of. Teachers and teachers that for example I could totally. Reminds
us. Every time I feel upset at what's happened. I have just stepped out of my beam
into my eagle into my life. And what I need to do is recognize that this
is
a signal to step back in my life. Byron Katie tells us. What
happens in the world is exactly what should happen we don't need to get upset about
it. Because otherwise we cannot stay connected to God we're going to respond to
what happens in the world. How do we how do we get our place self to that place
will be able to. Integrate that into our being in our life. Or
scientist led astray from in yours. Because they told us. That
our nature or natural responses were love or Firefly. He said
those are the primary responses when you respond according to the situation. And
finally they learn. That both responses were physiologically the same in other
words we don't have to get the responses we have one response now responses and
arousal pay attention response. Pay attention to what's happened in the world we
have learned from our society. To go to judgment
instead of responding to it pay attention when you do happen to us we first thing
we do is to go over here we judge it in the problem is when we judge it. And we get
a negative response inside ourselves we just hijack our intellect motions have said
your intellect I'm sorry I'm taking over now I'm going to do it the way I know how
to do it and the way I learn how to do it is this way I don't care if it doesn't
work but this is the way we do it so that's kind of the way we we operate our life
we just respond according to the belief that we have. Problems not
the way to spawn problems the belief that. We were true we responded really.
So how do we how do we deal is it good if we want to change this. What do we have
to do we have to change our belief. If we have to change our beliefs.
How do we do that. So we start. By learning to recognise.
When the need arises. It's very simple we have a guiding side of ourselves we have
a spirit. Guys that we have not going to listen to very well. Our spiritual guide
says. That's what will follow or our guide says.
No no. The female brain because we have just disconnected
the signal is my disconnected from God I feel upset I feel pain. That's my
spiritual guide telling me something. If I know how to deal with that pain. I can
take myself back in that place of being can I can do it immediately assuming that
comes to my changes soon as I become aware that I'm just connected if I know how to
act or I can do it. If I remember that I disconnected because of the
beliefs. And because of the way I think. Then
I can. Take myself back to that connection.
By listening to my guiding my guys just pay attention. OK I have one other problem
that I have to focus on I probably grew up. With
a belief system that says this is the way the world works this is what's right and
this is what's wrong. So if I keep operating with that system. I keep saying
my belief says that's wrong I get upset because I believe that I should be upset
and wrong has happened. If I can't change that I can't change.
So what the signal is. Tells me. That I have just
gone or signal that there's something wrong with my belief. Hopes. I made
a mistake and still in that we say you made me mad. What made me mad was my
thinking. Because I thought I should get married yes because it doesn't seem right
to me I believe I should get upset. You know just what if I don't change that very
next time the same thing happens I'm going to go through the same process over and
over again being upset. So we have. A way of dealing with.
We can learn
a new process we have to learn new beliefs. That support the idea that I want
to be happy but I want to return to look we can live with the beliefs that I should
be upset now I should be earning I should be sad because they don't. Keep that
connection. They take us away from our core with money. So.
We can learn a new way like I call the process. That we're doing now the three J.
Process first thing we do is we judge. Then we turn back because it seems wrong to
us and then we jump forward trying to do some sort of action not
a very well thought out action. I had
a really great story illustrates. So I'd fuck up
a story on the story just. As
a little. Content is not appropriate so
I'll skip the story but the point here's. What.
We change the process. We learn three see the process
and to make it
a little more interesting I still see se. But the process years compared to
choose and change so when something happens I have a I put
a new program in my head that says computer which I basically interpret is what I
do now. I take
a look at what's happened I value it with the idea that I want to stay connected
and I know I can stay connected. And so I choose
a response from all of the myriad responses that are available to me I choose one
that will allow me to stay connected to source or stay connected to God if I choose
a good source of says you're wrong or I'm wrong or I mean I'm
a bad person or you're
a bad person I've chosen the wrong thing because I have chosen to disconnect so if
I can remember I want to stay in that place of love. Then it's not difficult to.
Seek Instead the place of love that becomes your really core beliefs that you're
focusing on and every time you're not there you feel deliveries you move back into
that belief. Why do you have
a problem with it it's pretty simple I think most of us basically understand. But
the problem the other scientific principle of you deal with is that our mind
operates our physical mind operates at eleven million bytes per second it's really
amazing I'm sure. But our conscious mind operates at forty four thousand
bytes a second I mean that's like
a little slow dinosaurs like me using the Universe act to try to control the modern
computer. So all the things that are happening in our life actually happen
before we actually become aware of when somebody says I can't. I can't help using
my wife. He's actually speaking in truth because he's responding to
a belief that he has that he acts out before he thinks about it what he needs to do
is put in
a new program which says. At the very least assist I think before I'm. Just putting
that program in place so all of our problems I have one book is called My checklist
for life and that's kind of what it's about I need to have
a checklist before I do things like go around acting based on my responses what do
I care I get. What actions are based on what I know from
the. Other prong related to that because I put in
a new believe this is Will Cain this is the way it is I should always respond in
love but you know what I took ten thousand police back there that have
a lot of negative stuff going on so every time something comes up relating to those
things. That I have those attachments stripped I go back to those only negative
thoughts rather than being able to stay in the sort of love so I'm like oh I need
to really learn to stop and look to harmonize my belief system it's all. Consistent
with the new thought that I have that says I want to be alone. No it's not
consistent Well I need to do some work first of all I need to learn this process of
the three C. I need in order to use this process. Of something happens I have
this what do I do now instead of present right or wrong give up on your own say
what I do now and always assume. That there's
a partially choice available. It's my job. To find this positive choice
and bring him back to life. OK now that works pretty good on
a one time basis. But it doesn't work. Really well in the long run unless I
do
a little more work. Like you know I've been using my computer every good. And I print
one copy but the top print there comes as well today I want can copy and I get the
print but well now I got the line more because I have put
a program in place that says stuff and take the right number of jobs so we have to
do
a little bit more were assessed by other stock to start here this place and decide
how many copies of One for example. So we need to have
a program that works for us and once we have
a program The worse than what we have to do. You know we have to do.
We have to. Keep practicing We have to keep doing it over again.
Until we actually integrate that response we're going to slide back into the open
and if we see say well I can't do this new stuff I keep doing the old wrong stuff.
But it's not so difficult change I'll tell one life story. Everybody's going to
turn and look at it. Because she enjoys being embarrassed by me.
But. One of the things that she did after about seven years of marriage she used
the cereal she discovered discovered So what I do every morning for three months I
get up in the morning and go look and discover for cereal it's not there. So I go
over here and get well I know the answer to fix it but you know that's very
inefficient to be doing that every morning so I finally said to myself you know
enough is enough this time of the attention of this problem you know we took you
three days to train myself to look in the right cupboard for the cereal and if I
had paid attention in the training I'd probably still be looking in the wrong
governor certainly So it takes training it's not unfortunately it's not like
a computer we can't just delete your program is gone we have to override the
program by running
a new program. Over and over again until you get stronger than your program and
they're not going to set on your program appears again just reinforcing your
program once we do that. We really start changing your life. We don't accept
the idea anymore that I can stay connected I can stand alone we say oh I made
a mistake I just stepped out
a lot now I need to step back and in the beginning you'll do that quite often.
Pretty soon the new habits start developing you find very rarely that you have to
stop and remind yourself that you have to do corrections you have stuff that comes
up from time to time and you know how to do to do it one of the simple ones I can
remember there's no this is an easy one but if somebody cuts I was on the phone cut
you off in traffic. For Service have
a tendency to be irritated by somebody taking your space. You starting to think
about it in your set up a new pattern well yes maybe there's
a need to move what you have or nothing else I can be
a good guy. So I run that pattern a few times and then all of
a sudden like I get upset about it. For me the simple way out of that is to laugh
at myself for making the dumb mistake over it thought more practice. So those are
the things that we can learn. So we learn to listen to our signals.
And we don't listen. It's
a little bit like. We're in the woods.
And we want to find a game if we've been trained as a track or we recognize
a signal and we're able to follow the game to its source and get our going or if we
don't understand how to read the signals we start. So we have stuff is not
producing what we want in our life. Learn to read signals. Listen to your.
Inner guy. It's really telling you something and understand that you have the
power. You know it's worthwhile. And you now
know that you can get the knowledge you need to make change because it's there not
just leaves you with your work in the cracks. In the benefits and the rewards of
what you're so music. I have
a. Granddaughter I color my no limit
granddaughter if how many of you read Wayne Dyer. For you then you know what no
limit the limit term probably just comes from Wayne Dyer but he wrote
a book on parenting. Quite
a few years ago because I think it was at twenty some years ago that I was
impressed by the book I was so impressed with the book I did I have this problem
crying in the text once I try it when I read the book but I. Sat down and I put
about five hours of that book on tape and I gave those tapes to my daughter. And we
kept being amazed at all the stuff like granddaughter quite funny my daughter said
you know Dad I'm using those tapes. I'm using those tapes to razor she would do
stuff like one of the things I remembers on our fifteenth birthday I got
a postcard from Russia I got
a Trans-Am for my birthday it doesn't have an engine in it right now but I'm going
to rebuild
a small rock or fifty engine and put it will be ready for me I'm sixteen should be
a. Serial that she she sets records on the dragstrip track with
a car that was not my favorite choice of what to do. With she believes you could
do it so she did. She wrote
a column. Weekly column for the newspaper on pets and I was going to pet stores
while she's still in grade school and they would ask Chris
a consultant or handle things because she she was interested in insurance and she
did. Others So I got
a signal so. Almost tell the whole story but the bottom line is is this when she
was
a little. Early teens. Pat my wife said to her the
other one. What things do you fear in life. Never going to
screw up
a trace she said. I can't think of anything. To
be at that place in life that's what we all want to be in if we learn those lessons
will be that it does take
a little bit of work to learn and because it's like going back to school again for
a little bit but you know that. The rewards are so many times worth the After
that it's really valuable to do don't just pick up the book and say this is
a possibility recognize if I did the work this is one.
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